Over the past few days, there have been a few young kids that have sent me messages with some concerns. I’m pretty sure they both are 15 years old, and they are down because ever since they have committed to a healthy lifestyle, they have been ridiculed by their friends and family. They asked me what they should do and how I was able to deal with people like that. This really got me thinking, and it’s truly sad that a young kid making a decision to live a healthy lifestyle can’t get the support from the people they are closest with. What is wrong with people? I will tell you what’s wrong with people, but first let me tell you about some of my personal experiences with negative people.
Negative people are everywhere, and to be honest with you, I would say that it makes up about 80% of the population, just from my personal experiences. There is not one day that goes by where I don’t hear someone complaining about something or trying to tear others down. I see it at the grocery store, on Facebook, YouTube, and sometimes even in my own family. It’s truly sad. I remember going through my first round of P90X and going out with some friends, who ended up trying to make me look bad for committing to a healthy diet. As easy at it would have been to give in and laugh at their so called jokes, I stood firm in my beliefs and told them that I was doing this for me and in 3 months from now they would be coming back to me wondering what I did to get into amazing shape. Surely enough, that’s exactly what happened.
Why do people try to bring others down? It’s called jealously. Because you have decided to better your health and living and they don’t have the right mindset to do the same, they have to do whatever it takes to bring you down to their level. It makes them feel better about themselves, and when you let them know that it got to you, you just let them win. There is not one day that goes by where I don’t get a negative comment on YouTube, and if I would let that get to me, I would be an emotional wreck, but instead, I laugh, say “I feel bad for those people,” and then delete their comments. It’s the truth, I really do feel bad for those people because instead of focusing their time on something positive and productive, they waste their time trying to tear others down. These are the people who will always be average or below average.
A buddy of mine, Tommy Mygrant, told me yesterday that someone tried to discredit his 112lbs weight loss with P90X. Are you serious? You’re going to try and tear someone down who busted his ass to accomplish everything he did? All that does is make that person look like a complete idiot. Tommy laughed at it like I did, and then moved on. He didn’t let it get to him, which is exactly how everyone should handle situations like that. So next time you have people ridiculing you for doing something positive in your life, understand that these people are jealous of you and just want to bring you down to their level because it makes them feel better. Unfortunately, there are some people that just can’t handle the ridicule, and they give in, going back to their old negative ways so they could fit in. You have to be strong and maintain a positive attitude, believing that what you’re doing is right.
I heard a great quote the other day while down at the Game Plan event in Columbus, and Larry Zimberg said “You’re as successful as 5 people closest to you.” If you have friends that always try to bring you down, it’s time to find new friends because those aren’t true friends. True friends and family would support your decisions to improve your life. Instead, try to surround yourself with people who have the same passion and beliefs. I’m not talking about just health and fitness either. This has to do with everything that you do, including your job and relationships. If you want to be successful in life, surround yourself with successful people.
For those two young kids that are dealing with negativity from their friends and family, understand that you are doing this because it’s something that you feel is right to do, and you can’t let anyone convince you otherwise. Sure, you might get made fun of for eating grilled chicken and veggies other than pizza, but how much better are you going to feel about yourself after you get results? You will feel a sense of accomplishment, and there is not much better than that feeling. Stand firm is what you believe in and NEVER let negative people bring you down to their level.