First of all, I apologize for falling behind on posts, but I was out of town for business for the past 4 days. Now on to the post..
Back when I was in high school and college, I had a fear of speaking in public. I guess it was a normal fear to have because many people seem to have the same issue. Whenever I would get in front of the class to do a presentation, my heart would begin to race, palms got clammy, I started to sweat, and my voice would be shaky. I know many of you are sitting there and thinking to yourself, “This happens to me too!” I don’t know about you, but this was not my idea of fun! In fact, I dreaded having to do a presentation. I even remember one time having to speak in front of about 200 people for a baseball event, and I was so nervous that I could barely think straight!
When I started to think about why I had a fear of speaking in public, I couldn’t figure it out. Maybe it was the thought of people judging me if I messed up or just the fear of failing period. What’s ironic is that I didn’t do well on the presentations because I feared failure. My fear caused me to fail! After some time and reading through a book called “The Magic of Thinking Big” over and over again, I finally grasped the concept that my fear of giving a bad presentation and speaking in front of people was what was causing me to have a bad presentation. Once I realized that this was a silly fear, things really started to change for me, and I started relaxing more while talking in front of others. I faced my fear over and over again until I got to the point where I no longer feared speaking in front of others!
I always think back to an old saying that my dad used to say to my sister and I: “Fear causes hesitation, and hesitation causes failure.” Fear holds you back from the things that you are trying to accomplish. If you don’t face your fears head on and actually experience what it is your fearing, then you will continue to fear it, holding you back from accomplishing your goals. In my case with speaking in front of others, once I understood that it wasn’t a legitimate fear, I was able to move forward and speak in front of others successfully. Now, I have absolutely no problems with doing presentations in front of large crowds! In fact, I love doing it!
If you have a fear of speaking in public, or maybe something else like taking risks or stepping outside your comfort zone, you will never be able to accomplish what you want until you face your fears head on. You will quickly find that the things that you feared before are not legitimate fears and that you will be able to reach many of the goals you never thought you could reach before.