Today is a rare day for me. Normally I wake up excited, full of energy, and positive, but today right from the get-go things have irritated me. Now don’t get me wrong, I’m still focusing on all the positives and remaining positive myself, but I guess I’m just a little annoyed, that’s all, and just need to vent. Maybe it’s because lately many people have showed me they can’t follow through on their word, or that more people than normal have complained about not being happy, but don’t want to make any effort whatsoever to do something about it, or maybe that some people just get satisfaction from tearing others down. So, I figured why not take some time to talk about these type of people, and what I recommend them to do in order to better themselves.
Let’s start with people not following through with their word. If you’re someone who does this, it’s time to change. Whether it’s in a relationship or a business partnership, if you can’t trust the other person, nothing will be a success. While growing up, I was always taught that if I said I was going to do something, I better do it, and that’s how it should be. Something that really irritates me is when I put my trust in people, expecting them to do something when they said they would, but then they don’t do it, leaving the responsibility in my hands, not only messing up my schedule, but making things a lot more stressful than they need to be. I’m the type of person that gives people one shot, and if you break that trust, I don’t trust you again, it’s as simple as that. If you’re someone who doesn’t follow through with their word, you’re going to have a hard time holding onto friends, relationships, and moving forward with your career. Time to take a look int he mirror!
Next, if you don’t like where you are, make a change. Don’t sit there and complain and complain because for one, I nor anyone else wants to hear about it, but instead, shut your mouth, stop making excuses, and take action to move forward with your life! Take a chance, take a risk, because if you don’t, you’re going to continue on the same path that you’re on until it gets to the point where you’re 80 years old, wondering why you didn’t change when you were younger. This really does get to me! If you don’t like where you’re at in terms of your fitness, change! Is it hard to work out every day? Yes. Is it hard to eat healthy every day? Yes. Is it hard to just make a change? Yes, of course, but just imagine what’s going to happen down the road if you don’t do these things. For one, you’re shortening your active years, so instead of playing golf when you’re 75 years old, you’re sitting in a nursing home, obese with an unbelievable amount of health issues. Doesn’t sound enjoyable to me. Also, think about what your health problems will do to your family. If you have kids and you’re not living a healthy lifestyle, then chances are neither are they. You are a leader by example, so if you’re obese, then your kids probably are as well because they are always watching you, studying you, learning from you, copying you. I don’t know if you’ve been watching the news, but statistics are showing that because of the increasing rate in childhood obesity, this next generation is going to live shorter lives than their parents. That’s so sad to me, and something that needs to change immediately, and it all starts with the parents, and your ability to make a change
Next, if you struggle financially, do something about it. It’s unbelievable to me how many people complain about not having money for years and years, but don’t want to take a risk and do something that might help. They fear change, fear failure, and because of that fear, they never take a step forward. Will it involve getting outside of your comfort zone? Of course. Will you fail along the way? Oh yeah. My father drilled this saying in my sister and my heads while growing up, “Fear causes hesitation, hesitation causes failure.” I have tackled my fears head on, and most of the time I have conquered them. For example, I had a fear of striking out early on in my baseball career. That fear caused me to strike out over and over again. When I would strike out my first at bat, chances are I would strike out 3 more times that day because I feared striking out. However, once I learned to conquer that fear, thanks to my parents and self development books like “The Magic of Thinking Big,” I had tremendous success, especially in my college years, earning national honors my junior and senior years. I applied these same principles to my life once I graduated college and got a career. There was a point where I had no money coming in because I was suspended from my pay. For 3 months I had to figure out how to pay bills without any income coming in. Talk about dealing with adversity! It drives me nuts when people say that they can’t change their financial situation because it’s SO FAR from the truth! It was a great risk for me to become a Beachbody Coach, especially with where I was at with my other career, but I did, and look where it’s taken me. I no longer have to worry about financial issues, and I have absolute complete freedom! YOU have the ability to change, but it’s going to involve risk and conquering your fears.
Here’s the one that bothers me the most. People who get satisfaction for tearing other people down. Really, this makes me sick. You sit there, talk bad about someone behind their back, giving them a bad name, and enjoy it? Shame on you. What you don’t understand is that (1) it will always get back to that person, and (2) you’re losing the respect from every single person around you. Why? Because nobody likes to be around someone who is always negative. You might think you have a ton of friends, but in reality, you have no true friends, and it will remain that way until you decide to stop wasting your time and put that energy into something positive and productive. The only one laughing is you. I hear about these type of people all the time, and what’s sad is that the person on the other end usually gets hurt. It’s even more sad when it’s a young child. I sometimes have young children, maybe 10 or 11, emailing me, asking me what they should do because they are tired of being made fun of as either the skinny or fat kid. They pretty much tell me their lives are miserable. What I tell them is that they should pay absolutely no attention to people like that because they are saying those things to try to make themselves feel better about whatever situation they’re in, and usually it’s low self-confidence or jealously. I then recommend that they read “The Magic of Thinking Big” and then come back to me afterwards to let me know what they thought.
OK, I’m done venting. Hopefully I was able to get my points across! The thing is that I believe that every single person can change, regardless of their situation or where they’re at in their lives. Remember, if you say you’re going to do something then do it, if you don’t like where you’re at financially or with your fitness, do something about it, and if you’re someone who tears others down, just think about how that makes you look!