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Making Excuses

Ahh, yes, the one topic that I absolutely LOVE writing about! Why? Because it really does get me fired up. Not fired up in a sense of being ticked off, but fired up meaning being excited, passionate, because I get to share with you all something that I have learned from both my parents and grandparents while growing up, and from reading personal development books. What is it? Well, the title pretty much explains it, but it’s the importance of NOT making excuses! Why am I writing this today? Well, let’s just say that I was inspired by a comment that someone made on my “You’re Not a Tree” post yesterday, and before I move any further, no, it was not a good comment. Really, I’m already giving this guy WAY too much attention because normally I just read negative comments, smile, and delete them (literally), and just feel sorry that someone has to waste their time attempting to bring someone else down (unsuccessfully of course). But this comment was different. I wanted to spend some time talking about his comment not because I’m ticked off at him, because I’m not, but because it allows me to help you all understand why you should always believe that you can change your life, regardless of the situation that you’re in. What did he say? He said that pretty much I had no idea what I was talking about because life was so honky dory for me in the beginning stages of my Beachbody Coach career, and because I had SO MUCH time and no obstacles, no family (I guess he didn’t read my bio LOL!), that was the reason for my success. He went on to mention that “there are times where a person can’t just change their life.” Thank you Mr. Anonymous, you’re allowing me to talk about why you are 100% wrong.

Let me share a few stories with you all proving that no matter what the obstacle, how much time you have, if you have a family or not, you can achieve your dreams. Back when I started as a Beacbody Coach, life was not perfect. In fact, at the time I was suspended from my pay because of not being able to reach my quota. This went on for 3 or 4 months, and no, I didn’t have another income coming in, so I had a VERY hard time paying my bills. My bank account was pretty much at $50 or less at the end of every week, and I did what I had to do to get by. On top of that, I was still working 12-14 hours per day with my job that I wasn’t getting paid for. Not fun and very stressful! Oh and yes, Mr. Anonymous, I do have a family AND a daughter. Early on in my Beachbody career we were living in a one bedroom apartment, Melinda and I sleeping on the couch while Madison slept in the room. We lived paycheck to paycheck, struggled paying for groceries, and had to constantly tell my family that we couldn’t go out and eat with them because there was no way we could afford it. Are you understanding the adversity and obstacles we were facing yet? I sure hope so. Moving on. I remember the feeling of not being able to provide for my family, not being able to enjoy life, and it ate away at me. It got to a point where I knew I needed to change, so I did. I sat Melinda down on the couch and told her I had dreams, and that with her love and support along with some sacrifice that I would be able to achieve those dreams, creating freedom for our family. I could have come up with every single excuse in the book, but I didn’t. From that point on, I put in as much effort as I could to make my Beachbody Business successful, working long hours, sometimes past 2 or 3 in the morning, but that’s what it took. In January of 2010 I made Beachbody Coaching my full-time career, and a year later I was named Top Beachbody Coach 2010 out of over 50,000 coaches in the United States. I reached my goals and have been able to create both financial and time freedom for my family and I. Did I blame other people when I failed? No. Did I make excuses? No. Did I tear others down in the process? Nope. Lesson learned.

Next story. For those of you who are using age or time as an excuse, you’re going to feel bad after reading this one, and it just so happens to be my father’s story. See a trend here? My dad is a work horse. There is no going around it. The guy never stops working because he always creates goals for himself, and he never quits until he reaches his goals. It’s interesting because as we were growing up, there was always a saying in my family, that “Spencer’s Never Quit,” and it’s something that has ALWAYS stuck in my mind, and something I apply to my life every single day! Anyways, about 4 years back my grandfather sold the company business that my dad worked for as a General Manager, and our family was left to start from scratch. Financially, we struggled greatly, but my dad had a vision, a goal, a dream I guess, to own his own business. You all know that the economy was terrible back then (and still is) and that starting up your own business and having success with it was about a slim to none chance, but instead of saying “the economy is too bad” or “we don’t have enough money to start up a business,” he started it anyways. He doesn’t believe in making excuses, and he defied all odds, began his own company, and the business is running successfully today. He didn’t want to stop there. He decided to form yet ANOTHER company, a document shredding company, that has been growing steadily. That’s not it. He decided to become a Beachbody Coach as well because he understands the potential for this business, and has built that up successfully as well. Does he work long hours? Of course. Does he make sacrifices? Yes, many in fact. Is he making a change in his life at 50 years old? Yes. How many people can say that? Not many.

So you see Mr. Anonymous, you can’t say “there are times where a person just can’t change their life” and get away with it here. I don’t believe it, and neither should you, but unfortunately, that’s what you’re going to hold on to in order to make yourself feel better. Anyone can change if they really want to. You’re never too old, never too busy, to change things if you’re unsatisfied with where you are in your life. Nothing stops you from achieving every single goal that you set out to accomplish other than yourself! YOU are the one in control of your life! For everyone else out there, if you’re not happy with your fitness, career, relationships, remember to never make excuses and do whatever is necessary to make the changes because changes are indeed a good thing! Don’t be afraid to take a risk, take a chance, because that one step outside your comfort zone can change your life. If you find yourself making excuses, think about my story, my dad’s story, read personal development books like “The Magic of Thinking Big” by David Schwartz or “The Slight Edge” by Jeff Olsen, and you will quickly discover that excuses hold you back from succeeding.

If you have any questions, feel free to email me at coachspence8@yahoo.com.

11 comments

  1. Richard Gazaway /

    Awesome man ! Gave me real inspiration ! Thanks for sharing the story with us. No one could have explained it better. I enjoyed reading it so much, I cant believe that was teh end of it.

    Thanks Man.

  2. great post Josh

  3. Jason /

    what? we cant be an eternal victim? we can actually take responsibility, work hard and overcome obstacles and achieve goals? revolutionary! lol i feel you. crybabies drive me crazy as well. they dont know how to point the finger at themselves, they can only sit on their butts and complain, lol

  4. Excellent Post Josh. Whining never leads to success, it just leads to more whining. that was a good read and a good lesson.

  5. Very true Josh. No one likes to admit they are the problem. For some reason though people like to say their circumstances are out of their control….very sad. Great post!

  6. Shannon McLaughlin /

    Great post Josh….My favorite time quote…. “Don’t say you don’t have enough time. You have exactly the same number of hours per day that were given to Helen Keller, Pasteur, Michaelangelo, Mother Teresa, Leonardo da Vinci, Thomas Jefferson, and Albert Einstein.” ~H. Jackson Brown, Jr.

  7. This post hit the nail on the head. Got me pumped!

  8. Jessie Jacobs /

    Fantastic post!

  9. I enjoyed reading your article. Thanks for the motivation! I do have a ‘friend’ who has Spina Bifada and is in a wheelchair. She knows she has limitations and doesn’t mind letting you know that. Any advise on how I can keep her encouraged and motivated? Always enjoy reading your posts!

  10. Josh /

    @Bonnie. She just has to believe that even though she is in a wheelchair, there are many things that she can do. I know quite a few people in wheelchairs who have changed their lives because of their determination to accomplish anything they set their minds to. Recommend personal development to her, such as “The Magic of Thinking Big” by David Schwartz.

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