First of all, I have to thank my coach, Barbie Decker, for inspiring me to write this post. As I was browsing through Facebook this morning, I came across one of her posts, where she talks about being a part of the new P90X:MC2 cast and how she is never really focused on the moment, but rather what’s going to happen after the moment. I guess this is something that I have been doing for years and years now, and I never really give myself a chance to enjoy the success that I have worked so hard to achieve.
I’m a choleric, or as others might know as a driver. I hate failing, and no matter what I do, I will always be focused on achieving goals. When I reach a goal, I move to the next, and the process just never stops. One of the issues with choleric personalities is that we are always focused, and never really take a step back to realize what’s going on outside of our narrow path of thinking. Drive, work hard, fail, get back up, drive, succeed, drive again. The process continues and continues until one day you’re sitting there, 2 years later, and wondering how in the hell 2 years just passed by without you even blinking. When I say you, I mean me. I’ve been so focused over the past two years that time seems to be zipping past me, and I never really get a chance to enjoy the life that I have created for myself.
Throughout the 2 and a half years of being a Beachbody coach, I have accomplished a lot. Now looking back at it, I’ve accomplished every single goal that I have set out to accomplish, which is outstanding. Because of the amount of success I have had in this business, I have been on 2 trips to the Cayman Islands, traveled all around the country experiencing amazing cities like Chicago, New York, L.A., Dallas, while also winning numerous awards like Elite Coach 2010, #1 in the Hang Ten Challenge, a Chairman’s Adventure winner, and last but certainly not least, the biggest of them all, Top Beachbody Coach 2010 out of over 50,000 coaches here in the United States. Now, I have won 2 additional trips, one a week long Caribbean Cruise and the other a luxury trip to Cabo. And then there’s being a cast member in the new P90X MC2 that’s coming out later this year. Wow. I never really took a chance to look at everything that I have accomplished in such a short period of time, and the bad part about it is that I really haven’t enjoyed it as much as I should have either. I never take a second to just “soak up” the moment and be proud of what I have accomplished.I’m too focused on achieving my next goal.
When I think about it, there are two times that I have actually shut out everything else and focused on the moment. The first was when I proposed to Melinda down in Cayman Islands. For once, I wasn’t thinking about work, and only focused on asking the girl of my dreams to marry me. I will never forget it. I arranged us to have a private cabana dinner on the beach, and breathtaking was an understatement as to how beautiful the moment really was, not just from the scenery, but from how I was focused only on Melinda, how beautiful she looked that night, and how I was going to make a commitment to spend the rest of my life with my soul mate. I can picture the moment I proposed to her like it was yesterday, and that’s what it’s all about. We had an amazing dinner, so good that I can still taste the short ribs and asparagus, and still feel the warm ocean breeze as we sit there enjoying our glass of champagne. I even remember how our best friends almost ruined it by coming out to congratulate us BEFORE the moment even happened! Luckily, one of them had a feeling that I hadn’t proposed yet, so they just hid behind a tent. It’s moments like this that make life truly amazing.
The next moment was when Melinda and I had our first real luxury dinner in Dallas. Because of being a Success Club winner, we won a trip to Dallas for the Leadership Event, and on the top floor of the hotel we were staying at was a restaurant that overlooked the city. For the first time, we could eat at a luxury restaurant and not have to worry about affording it. There was a moment when we both stopped and looked at the sunset over the city, really taking in the view while enjoying the outstanding taste of the food, and I said, “Can you believe that we have come this far in just a few short years?” I had taken our family from living paycheck to paycheck to financial security, and we could now enjoy the parts of life that we never thought we would be able to afford. There were some points where we weren’t sure how we were going to pay our bills, and I even remember promising Melinda that I would change things. No matter how hard I had to work, I would change things because Melinda and Madison deserved to live an great life, one without worry. Amazing. The moment in Dallas was so special and emotional that I started tearing up. I was relaxed, enjoying life with the woman that I love, and that’s what it’s all about.
Why am I saying this? Because I want more of my life to reflect moments like those. I want to be 80 years old, sitting next to Melinda, and talk about specific moments like those I mentioned, being proud of what I did in my lifetime, and know that I lived life to the fullest, loving to the fullest. My vow is to start really enjoying those special moments and what I have accomplished. Being a part of P90X 2 is a big deal, but instead of really soaking up the moment, I’m focused on what’s going to happen afterward. Not anymore. I’m going to take in this experience and imprint it in my memory, so that when I’m an old guy, I can share the experience with my grandchildren like it occurred yesterday. I’m very fortunate to live the life that I have with the people I love, and when I accomplish a goal from now on or am experiencing a “special moment,” I’m going to enjoy it.