When I was very young, one of the first things I remember my parents teaching me is to always think before you act. So many times people get so caught up in emotion that they completely forget about the thinking part, and just act immediately. Of course this isn’t the right way to approach it, because what ends up happening is people get hurt, and in the process you’re making yourself look pretty bad and lose the respect from others. Lately, I’ve been noticing that there are quite a few people beginning to act on emotion and tear others down on Facebook, so I thought this would be a great topic to write about.
Acting on emotion is dangerous because it often leads to regret. I’ll have to admit, there have been a few times in the past where I have slipped up and said a few things that I regretted afterwards, but it’s something that I have pretty much eliminated over the years. The unfortunate part about acting on your emotions and speaking out about it on a social media site like Facebook is that once it’s on there, it’s not going away, regardless if you delete it or not. In fact, there was something mentioned about a good friend of mine on Facebook the other day, something very inappropriate I might add, and even though the girl deleted it, it was copied and sent to me from someone else. On top of that, many others saw the post and did the same thing, and mentioned to me that they completely lost respect for this girl. It’s very unfortunate because I don’t know her, but her reputation is now tarnished because of one post she put on Facebook. Regardless for your reason for posting something nasty about someone else, you have to remember that people don’t respect people who tear others down. I know I don’t. It’s important that you always stay classy.
There are a few times that I can remember where I got an inappropriate or nasty email from someone, or Melinda told me she received a sexual comment or email from someone, and it would have been very easy to respond immediately, letting these people know how sad they are, and automatically lash out against them. If I would have done that, I would have let my anger get the best of me. Believe me, I can remember writing back to these people, smoke coming out of my ears, just about to hit the send button, but instead of doing so, I sat there, read it over and over again, calmed myself down, and ended up deleting it. When I calmed myself down, I realized that it’s not going to do any good to respond back in anger because I would be bringing myself down to their level, doing the exact same thing they’re doing. A good thing to do, something that I do every time I receive an email like that, is write back, but before sending it, I let 2-3 others read it over to make sure it’s not rude, but rather is very professional and classy, and something that won’t make me look bad. The best thing to do, though, if it’s something that is completely inappropriate, and from someone who just wants to start something, is to not respond at all. This not only frustrates the person because they expect you to retaliate, but you just saved yourself some time, and can focus on doing something a little more productive. All you can do is feel sorry for the person, forget about it, and move forward.
If you’re someone who has posted something nasty about someone else on Facebook or Twitter, your best bet is to delete it and then publicly apologize to that person. Even at that, though, people will still look at you differently, but an apology might help rebuild your reputation some. It takes a strong person to apologize! Like I mentioned, your reputation can be ruined by one inappropriate comment about someone else, so it’s very important that you always think before you act. This is especially true for those of you who are business people, where your reputation is everything! Remember, never act immediately on emotion, and always think about what you’re going to say or write to that person before you actually do it.