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You Can’t Convince People

Have you ever felt so strongly about something, get so excited about it, that all you want to do is approach the first person you see and tell them about it? And then once you approach them, with your eyes lit up, voice a little higher than normal, maybe doing a little Irish hop dance or something, and suddenly that excitement drops down to zero, that happy face turns into an emotionless “huh?” expression, all because the person you wanted to share it with has absolutely no interest at all? Instead of just forgetting about it and turning away, you feel that it’s your duty to convince this person that what you’re feeling or thinking is right, and that they should feel the same way as you do, so you stand there, staring at them, spewing all these facts on the person, but instead of miraculously changing their feelings, they get ticked off and walk away. 2 weeks pass, and for some reason you think that time changed their mind, so you decide to call them up. You get the voice mail, leave one heck of an awkward message, and then never hear back from them again. Don’t you just want to take people by the shoulders and shake them, yelling “WHY WON’T YOU LISTEN TO ME!”?

After I finished my first round of P90X and before I even became a Beachbody Coach, I became so passionate about the program that I wanted to tell everyone about it because if it worked for me, I was sure it could work for them! However, I quickly discovered that people weren’t nearly as excited about it as I was, and even though I knew it would help them change their health, they weren’t willing to start the program. Sure there were many people that listened to me and ended up changing their lives, but there were also many people who didn’t, and unfortunately, some of these people were those closest to me. All I wanted to do was help them get healthy because I discovered the secret in doing so, but they didn’t want anything to do with it. No, they would rather sit there, eat their potato chips and ice cream, complain about being overweight, and lead a miserable life than to get involved with something that could literally change their life forever. It didn’t make much sense to me. I was that person who just wanted to take them and shake them! COME ON PEOPLE! I’m telling you about something that literally is guaranteed to work if you put the effort towards it, but you would rather drink your beer, stuff your face with pizza, and reminisce about how skinny you used to be in high school. I seriously think that some people like to complain and be miserable. That’s the only conclusion that I can come up with! The more that this happened, though, the more I learned that you can’t convince people to believe what you believe. They have to believe it on their own time and terms, and once they do, they will come back to you, but you don’t go back to them until that happens. This was a hard lesson I learned, but I soon found out that I was able to have a positive impact on more people by just moving on to the next person instead of bugging the crap out of the same person who didn’t “get it” week after week. Even though I knew I could help them change their health, they didn’t, so I just moved on to the next person, hoping to find someone that would listen to me, and many did.

After I became a Beachbody Coach, my life began to change financially. Sure it took a while, but in a year and a half I was making enough money as a part-time Beachbody Coach as I was my full-time job, so I decided to take on the Beachbody Business full time. From that point on, my business exploded, and I was able to emerge as Top Beachbody Coach 2010 out of over 50,000 coaches, creating both time and financial freedom for my family and I, and helping thousands of lives in the process of doing so. Because I have personally experienced such a drastic change in my life, going from literally not being able to pay bills to financial security in just a few years, you can’t convince me otherwise that there is a greater opportunity out there. How many careers can you stay home, spend as much time with your family as you want, help change lives, be completely passionate about what you do, so much that you are excited to get up every morning just to work, and make enough money to create freedom to do what you want without having to worry about being able to afford it? I don’t know of anything else but this one, and that’s why I’m always talking about it to other people. What get’s me, though, is that some people don’t listen to me. Most people do, but there are some who don’t. They feel it’s some sort of scam and that I’m out to “get them.” Understand that I’m 26 and have changed my life so much that if I wanted, I could probably retire in 5 years (even though I won’t because I love doing this so much!), and I’m confident that every single person out there can do what I did. I didn’t do anything special. I busted my butt because I wanted to do something for my family and help other people, and because I put in the necessary work and was in it for the right reasons, I got rewarded. All it takes is commitment, hard work, and sacrifice. That’s all, but apparently that’s too much for some people. Instead, they would rather work their 9 to 5 jobs for the rest of their lives, complain about their boss and how they never get a raise, not being able to spend time with their children and watch them grow up because they are working too many hours, until it gets to the point where they are 65 and can’t retire because they can’t afford to.

So many people have the opportunity to change things when they are young, but for whatever reason, they let that opportunity come and go. There might have been someone who approached them with an excellent opportunity, whether it was for their health or career, but instead of listening, they went on with their lives, complaining and complaining for years and years. Some people will never change and even though they say they want to, they have no desire to, and that’s something that you will have to come to accept. You can’t convince anyone to change the way they are, and they have to be willing to change on their own terms. They have to completely shift their mindset, and once they do, they will come back to you, but until then, you just have to let them be, no matter how hard it is. I want the world for so many people, and know that I can literally help them become healthy with Beachbody products and financially independent with the business, but no matter how hard I try to convince them that’s what they need, they will never make a change until they believe that it’s what they need. You can’t convince people.

If you’d like to learn more about P90X, any other Beachbody program, or the Beachbody Business, feel free to email me at coachspence8@yahoo.com.

8 comments

  1. Justin /

    Another great article. VERY VERY well said.

  2. Nailed. Absolutely nailed. Conviction comes from within and there’s those who have it and you can reach and those you may not while someone else does. Convincing isn’t the key. Example is.

  3. Great products do the convincing. and success breeds success. even people that don’t want to listen to you still can’t help but see how your life is better thanks to Beachbody.

  4. Josh, thank you for the words and keeping it real! It is very motivational to hear someone who has been there, started from the bottom and is now soaring well above the clouds. Be richly blessed Buddy as you continue to inspire.

  5. Ryan /

    I’ve been experiencing the same issues. Whenever I try to tell people about p90x or the success I’ve had with it they usually give a smug, sarcastic laugh. Although the people I worked out with before p90x (I’m part of the minority that was actually in top physical shape before p90x and constantly worked out with friends) are all on it now!

  6. Hey Josh ! very good post, I’m struggling though with getting my wife on board and changing her lifestyle and working out . I haven;t really pushed her at all into joining me yet. I know I can really help her change her life ,but just trying too convince her that she can do it has been hard . she has been overweight her whole life and hasn’t been very active since highschool . Do you have any other ideas that I can do to slowly convice her that she can do it . She has watched my body transform and lifestyle change over the last year so she knows that it works . Thanks Josh. sorry for the long reply

  7. @Dan That’s a tough one man because you don’t want to approach her and offend her, but rather find a way to talk to her and let her know that you need her support with this, meaning that she needs to get involved with you. Talk to her about how this decision is improving your lives together.

  8. Keith Bohlen /

    Josh, this article couldn’t have come at a more perfect time for me. You’ve said out loud what I’ve been denying in my head when it comes to the reality of trying to get others motivated into changing their health and finances. Thanks Josh.

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